Change Your Outlook on Life Forever with 7 Days and A Rubber Band.

Your mind is a powerful tool. Unfortunately, no one gave us the instruction manual! No one taught us how to think. And more importantly, no one sat us down and told us that our thoughts create our reality. And that’s kind of a big deal. But don’t worry, we’re about to go over the science of metacognition, or “thinking about thinking.” Then, we’ll share with you a 7 day “no complaints” challenge that will change your outlook on life, forever.

“We are, every one of us, already creating our lives all the time. The trick is to take the reigns and steer the horse to where we want to go. Your life is a movie written by, directed by, produced by, and starring you. We are all self-made. But only the successful will admit it.” -Earl Nightingale

 

THE NEOCORTEX AND THE AMYGDALA

As the incredible human beings we are, we can communicate, strategize, empathize, and organize with the part of our brain called the Neocortex. It’s responsible for all sorts of high-level processes you use every day to make the right decisions based on logic.

However, when we are communicated to, from another person or an event that happens in front of us, that bundle of stimuli doesn’t go to your (Pre-frontal) Neocortex first. It starts in your Amygdala. The Amygdala is the leftover part of our brain from our more uncivilized years as hunters and scavengers. It helps us assess threats and protect ourselves from potential danger.

The Amygdala is all about keeping us safe, which is great when we’re in trouble. But the other 99% of the time, the amygdala is reacting to stimulus in our environment that’s much better suited for the neocortex. The amygdala is why you make impulse buying decisions, get into fights, and protect your ego. It’s also why, when you let things cool down (AKA, give your neocortex time to process the information), you make better decisions.

 

YOUR DEFAULT BEHAVIORS

You may have heard that some humans are “hardwired” for “fight or flight.” We all have default behaviors we fall back on when we’re under stress. Your default behaviors are locked in. They are a combination of both nature and nurture: your genetic code and the environment you were raised in. Because we’re all unique, most people have amazing combinations of helpful and harmful default behaviors.

Here’s the good news. Even though it could be true you can never change your default behaviors, you can place a “short-circuit” in your life, which is a cue to pay attention to what’s going on, that will help you discover something very cool: this present moment.

When you are confronted with a stimulus, you process the information, execute your reaction, and get a result. In between the stimulus and how you begin processing of the information is a moment of time. Inside this moment, you have the opportunity to make a choice between your default negative behavior, or something new.

 

THIS IS AWARENESS

If you’ve been running harmful programs on autopilot all of your life, this might be a difficult process. Becoming aware of our own thinking and how to change it is no easy task. But it is simple, and it is systematized. It all starts with awareness. We’ve all been fully aware and present in a few key moments of our life: making sure we don’t trip at graduation, giving a wedding toast in front of hundreds of people, or a waterfall view that took our breath away.

When you’re aware, you are consciously processing the information around you. It means you’re functioning at a higher level, and your neocortex is making more of the important decisions. The more awareness you can generate, the faster you can reprogram bad habits, eliminate the disease of negative thinking we call stress, and drastically improve your overall daily contentment. So, how do we build our own awareness?

 

SNAP.

Do you remember the famous experiment of Pavlov and his dog, who he trained to salivate at the ring of a bell? No? Well, remember when Jim from The Office made Dwight reach his hand out for a mint at the ding of his computer?

Exactly. That’s called a positive reinforcement: rewarding a behavior to encourage more of that behavior. The other option is positive punishment; punishing a behavior to discourage more of it (This is not negative reinforcement, which is removing a positive stimulus as punishment). And because we’re not a bunch of wimps, let’s use positive punishment for our thought-changing experiment.

 

FOR 7 DAYS, SNAP A RUBBER BAND ON YOUR WRIST (HARD!) EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU COMPLAIN.

We have this default behavior that almost every human being has been blessed with since Adam wasn’t cool with hanging out with animals and a naked chick for the rest of his life: he had to complain that he couldn’t have an apple. The infectious complaint is everywhere. You hear it on Mondays the most, but even the luckiest and most well-off people can complain the weekend away just as easily.

The complaint is the anti-awareness. When you complain, you are comparing something that is right now to how you feel it should be in your imagination. What a strange habit. Instead, why don’t you just enjoy that amazing thing right then and there? Feel the sunshine, listen to the conversation, taste the food. Practice simple awareness. Because with awareness, comes the ability to choose.

Complaining can be pretty comprehensive. This means no gossiping, or saying “the thing about him is…” No more grumbling about the weather, and absolutely no fussing about first world problems like the wifi signal strength. Instead of complaining, just keep your mouth shut and get to work either fixing the problem or accepting the situation.

Level One:

No complaining for 7 days. When you complain, snap your band. Make it hurt.

 

Level Two:

Plus, you must announce what you are grateful for instead of your complaint.

 

Level Three:

Get at least three friends involved, and snap their bands when they complain. Start a war.

This is not as easy as you think. At first, it’s going to be a challenge to even notice when you are complaining. That’s why it’s great to take this up with a friend. But once your wrist starts to sting all day long, something pretty awesome is going to happen. Both your neocortex and your amygdala are going to sync up. One part knows you shouldn’t complain to be a happy person, and the part other just doesn’t want to get hurt any more.

If you’re going to take The 7-Day No Complaints Challenge, leave a comment with the selected level you’ve chosen to tackle! Oh, and you realize you can’t complain about it hurting right? Also, you can’t complain about others complaining! Good luck out there 😉

Share this movement with the world. Let’s remove complaints from our personal vocabularies forever. Each time you get a glimpse of your rubber band, take a moment to look around at your surroundings and breathe deeply. Complain less. Enjoy more. Be aware.

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35 Comments

  1. Q Z

    I’m gonna go for Level 1. Let’s get started!

    Reply
  2. Nolan Patterson

    Level 1 starts Monday. I’ll try to include the wife, too.

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    • JD At Conquer Today

      I hope I didn’t just start a domestic war. That’s awesome Nolan, good luck!

      Reply
  3. James Herbert

    *Snappity snap* (rubber band talk for level 2)

    Reply
  4. Spencervds

    Where can I get one of those black Conquer bracelets?

    Reply
    • JD At Conquer Today

      Spence, we’re working on creating something ASAP for you guys. I bought these longer rubber bands that wrap around a couple times that look way cooler, plus they are snappable. Go back into that email Support chain we’ve got going and send me your address, I’ll mail you a few!

      Reply
  5. Nicola N'Such

    I’m going for Level 2! I’m going to tell some of my friends about what I’m doing, and if they decide to join in that’ll be cool, but I really like the idea of incorporating gratitude into this.

    I’m Five Months Clean from heroin addiction, and came across CNQR while learning about meditation. I think reprogramming my mind to be more positive and grateful, and spending less energy on complaining or wishing things were different, will really help me to stay clean. Thanks for all the suggestions, CNQR!

    Reply
    • JD At Conquer Today

      Nicola, you’re so welcome. Good luck on your journey, and I’m so happy we can be here to go on it with you!

      Reply
  6. Val004

    this is a great thing you are doing!

    Reply
  7. Ted Engels

    If you want to step it up a notch, you can do the same technique with hot sauce. That may produce results faster for some.

    Reply
  8. Ben Janes

    Level Two baby! I’ve tried this before about checking out girls so much haha, I failed though…

    Reply
  9. Johnny League

    Level 1, here I come. Great website, btw! Looking forward to learning more.

    Reply
  10. Starting Level 1 today!

    Reply
  11. Eric One

    I’m going to level 3 with my wife and 18 yr old daughter… Maybe my older brother for the third? Either way, it’s on!

    Reply
  12. Eric Feil

    Level 2 for this future non complainer!!

    Reply
  13. David Williamson

    I’m going for broke. Level 3 but I’m going to include cussing and I’m getting my family to join me &@$&#!!

    Reply
  14. Tye Jensen

    Level 3, let’s get snappn’!

    Reply
  15. Nic Vermillion

    Day five at level two and doing great. Level three won’t be happening as everyone just stares at me like I’m crazy when I explain it.

    Reply
  16. James

    I’ll try level 2 starting today. Will have to work on some friends to do level 3.

    Reply
  17. James Keogh

    It took me 3 days for my brain to yell “Stop hurting me!!!” hahahaha. Great motivator to quit complaining.

    Reply
  18. Jack

    I’m not sure this is a good thing to encourage when it comes to people with mental health problems. It’s essentially encouraging self-harm as a response to bad feelings. Training yourself to feel bad for feeling bad just means more emotional constipation – mindfulness is a far more productive way to handle negative emotions IMO.

    Reply

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